A Mom Describes Her Tween Son’s Brain. It’s A Must-Read For All Parents


A mother anonymously posted a question on Quora where she asked how she could tell her eleven-year-old to stop being dis-respectful, and that she finds his behavior unacceptable. This is a very common issue in most families when kids enter their teenage years. They tend to become very moody and sensitive to an extent that parents feel like they are being dis-respected.

To answer this woman’s question, a mother of two gave a good answer that we think every parent must read. Jo Eberhardt, a writer from Australia and said that puberty is a phase that turns your sweet little kids into moody teenagers. She then went on to describe an incident where she had a conversation with her son about puberty in the car.

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Jo said she first apologized to her son about what she had told him about puberty. Her son accepted her apology and then asked her what was happening with his brain, and she went on to explain saying that puberty was one such thing that would change him from being a kid into an adult and so even the brain transforms into an adult’s mind but the human brain doesn’t know how to help you become the person you want to be.

She said that why he tends to get annoyed pretty quick to which he agreed.

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She then went on to continue by saying that the first part of your brain that gets enlarged is your amygdala which controls your emotions and sometimes our brain tells us to react in a very hyper manner to something which isn’t that big. She tried to empathize with her son and he agreed and admitted that he got annoyed and he did not have a reason to justify that.

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She then went on to tell him that the last part of the human brain that gets rewritten in the front of your head is called the frontal cortex which is the part of the brain that helps you make decisions but because you have an adult amygdala mixed with a child frontal cortex, it becomes even harder.

So her son asked her if it was his fault to which she responded that it was not his fault but puberty’s fault. She said just because it isn’t his fault doesn’t mean he doesn’t make an effort to amend his mistakes and get his actions under control.

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She then told him she understands that it is confusing for him but it becomes even more confusing for her, and it can be sorted if he spoke out to her. He then understood and cuddled with his mom before they got out of the car. Jo said that ever since that conversation happened, her son started to respect her and is now more open about his feelings. She then concluded her response to the question by saying that by empathizing with her son, she is confident that the other woman would be able to understand her son better.

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