Mom Defends Tough-love Letter To 13-year-old Son After Getting Shamed Online


Heidi Johnson’s son was 13. Deeply in adolescence and in that stage that he loses his calm quite often. He told his mother that he should not have to deal with her rules and deserved to be independent. So she wrote a strict but loving Mom’s letter to him. In the letter, she told her son that since he thinks he’s an adult now, she would want him to pay his share of rent and do the other responsibilities in the house.

Heidi went on to post about the letter and her son’s reaction to it. She said that he first didn’t take it well.

Image credit: Facebook / Heidi Johnson

She said, “He went to his room, and after about an hour, he had removed some electronics and items I missed that he felt he should have to earn back for his behaviour. He apologized and asked what could he do to make things better and start earning items back. He earned his comforter and some clothes right back. I did leave him some clothes, to begin with, just not the ones he would want to wear every day. He also had some pillows and sheets, just not his favourite ones.”

She decided to post it on social media, the way one does to friends for a laugh and connection.

She did not find the need to make it “private,” and soon comments and shares started pouring in, including comments from strangers who thought she was not a good parent. Heidi then wrote another post clarifying that she just wanted to him be humble and be grateful for what he has. She then went on to list her very organized rules of the house:

Image credit: Facebook / Heidi Johnson

1) Do your best in school! I don’t expect a perfect 100%, but I do expect that you do your best and ask for help when you don’t understand something.

2) Homework and jobs need to be done before you can have screen time.

3) Jobs are emptying the dustbin, unloading the dishwasher, throwing away trash you make in the kitchen, rinsing dishes, making your bed daily, picking up bedroom nightly, and cleaning your bathroom once a week.

4) You must complete two chores a day. Every day of the week except Sundays

5) Be respectful and kind with your words — no back talking.

6) Keep good hygiene.

7) Make eye contact when being spoken to, and be an active listener.

8) Use proper manners.

Heidi says that the letter hasn’t created any differences in their relationship and that her son has now started appreciating things more than he did before.

Image credit: Facebook / Heidi Johnson


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