An earlier overweight mother has transferred 103lbs (7.5st) of pregnancy weight when she discovered her cheating husband and his lover called her ‘fat f-word’ Betsy Ayala, 34-years-old, from Houston, Texas, surmounted the scales at 262lbs (18st 7lb) after 2013, as she gave birth to her daughter, Isabella. Six months later it was discovered that her ex-husband was having an affair and also found messages of his lover that stormed Betsy’s weight.
Although a strong mother, Betsy pledged not to be disappointed and started to work out with her sister and converted sugary snacks for healthy drinks.
Recently, a single mother of a daughter works out six times a week in the gym and has stretched out 159lbs (11st 3lbs) believes her ex-husband’s cheating worked as a blessing for her to begin a new life for herself and her daughter. Betsy said, “I didn’t know what to do with myself at the time.” She added, “I was still over 200lbs with a 6-month-old and everything that I had worked for had just vanished.”
Now I honestly feel that what he did was a blessing because otherwise, I would have been the way I was forever.” ”I prayed all the time for my life to change and my prayers were answered just maybe not in the way I envisioned but I got a second sh-ot at a fresh start and I’m grateful for, that.” ‘It’s changed everything in my life.” “I would cry after every workout and it was then that I decided that this wouldn’t define me and I was going to change for me and my daughter.” “I wanted her to be proud of her mum and I wanted to be an example for her.”
Betsy’s life-long battle with her weight derived from apprehension – when she was 13 she went on her first diet. She said: “I pretty much had weight issues my whole life.” “I was always the chubby kid, I never played sports or wanted to take in physical activity because I was overweight.” “I did get bu-llied in school and got picked on. I think for me eating was like self-medication.”
“I have anxiety and instead of dealing with the real source of my anxiety I would eat and then that would become the source of my anxiety and I would eat some more and it was just a vicious cycle.” When she was in college, she crossed 210lbs and after she gave birth to Isabella she stretched 262lbs.
Betsy said: “After I had my daughter I was the heaviest I had ever been.”
“My 14-year relationship was very strained and I was in a very severe postpartum sadness and anxiety.” “I couldn’t sleep and I had no desire to function at all but I had a newborn so it was a very difficult time.” In an endeavor to get healthy, in 2013, she switched to Herbalife drinks and in four months she lost 60lbs. However, the real br-eaking point came when she knew about her husband’s affair.
She said: “I started having more energy and losing weight, even though that wasn’t really my intention at the time, and slowly started to get better.” “I started in September and was doing okay until two days after Christmas when I found out my husband was cheating on me with a coworker.” “I had been with him since I was 17 and pretty much devoted my life to our relationship and him.” “I was dev-astated.
I found out through some messages I read on his social media where they were calling me a cow and a ‘fat f -word’ and just trashing me and my whole world fell apart.”
“He would always tell me I looked fine or would try to get me to eat junk all the time which is why I was so dev-astated when I read those messages because it was almost like he enabled me or wanted me to stay that way.” In March, she started doing motivational workouts including dance and Zumba three days a week along with her sister. Afterward, she started weightlifting and running in the gym six times a week while consuming a high protein diet. Betsy said: “I’m a completely different person both on the inside and outside because of my outlook on everything.”
“I was always very negative and had a chip on my shoulder because I was unhappy with myself.” “I’m happier, I’m confident and most of all I’m positive.” “I know that I’m capable of so much and I’m so happy to set a good example for my daughter which is extremely important for me.” She added: “My ex-husband and I are actually good now.” ” It took me a while to get to that place of forgiveness but what he did was about him and not me.” “My journey has really helped me understand that.”